Try not to understand everything

Understanding does not need for every story. Left it the way it is probably the optimistic choices in many occasions.

As some psychologists might said, sometime people are out of character without any good reasons, even themselves wonder how it could happen. It probably some complicate function of our mind make such things, irregular you, happen. Why don't just leave it that way? Maybe try to understand those things cause stress, confuse yourself, or even against yourself. That doesn't seem worth time spending on it, at all.

Let take a look on some example. First, you are still be good friend with your ex after broke up. Both of you still care and nice to each other which sometime make you feel something else, especially if you still have no one while your ex might do the opposite. It doesn't necessary that your ex still have feeling for you the same way of you, or the same way like before. It may as well as it might not, equally. Most of the time, you don't need to make it clears or try to understand it. Leaving it that way supposes to be the optimist action, I guess. If it means to be about get back together, just give it time. Making up just like deeper broken up if you misinterpret the source that cause your actions! Second, you and your friend were long be good friend and alway have each other back. Someday you find out that you both go to different directions and no longer good companion as before because you don't understand why each of you act and think that of different ways. Again, you don't need to completely understand all that happens and still be good friend. Compromising is the way while you don't need to fully supportive, you don't need to strongly against as well; meet each other half way--in the middle. If you can't accept people the way they are, maybe its time to be no longer good friend but you can still leave without ruining it all--you're now just friend, still can be.

Like the topic post, many times you don't need to understand everything. Let go with it, let your logic take a rest because not everything need to name right or wrong, it can be in between. ;) carry less, happy more.

One or three

Sometimes brain and heart went in opposite way.

Yes, I mean what it mean. Some situations you know exactly what you need to do, but only your heart tell you in different stories. Our wants sometimes they don't make any senses, our wants sometimes they don't meet our needs. What I'm going to say is, our brain thought in logic ways but our heart it's a pure feeling only and most of the times they work against each other. Maybe this is the reason why we have to have moral, or rules to control ourselves for not hurting somebody else as much as we could, to motivate ourselves to stick with what it should.

Hey, let take a look at some example to reconsider why you choose to do what you think you want to do, really? Do you really want to do this?
Let say if you were in the love triangle, and your position wasn't that good. You are about to be outside the circle. Your brain tell you to go--left them behind while your heart tell you to fight back--try so hard and so bad to win this game. Is it really worth trying to get your lover back? Your brain tell you 'It's not,' because if you really love who you said you love why don't just let them happy with what them chose. Your heart didn't agree with at all and always want to fight, if not it didn't prove that you really love them. Either way, the message meaning was measured at the receiver, not the sender. We'll never know for sure which way will be appreciated from your love one. Maybe no one knows for sure of what they really want, and sometimes we knew it when we already lost it--hard to get it back and accept that, sigh!
Get back to my point! Your brain win, you are the only one who hurts (and sometimes that 'hurt' actually gave you a happiness :)*) Your heart win and you've done everything you want to, given two sides in result. First, you win yours back while all three of you guy gain a hidden painfulness. Second, you still lost--you gain deeper painful heartbreak and they both can't live without it too, might be in a good way (they love each other more) or a bad way (they also break up). This is what I mean, one or three. Are you fair enough to end this story by one?

Nothing no exception by the way, but we might not lucky enough to own that kind of thing, so if you weren't get a special story which your heart lead your way to grab it so perfectly or incredibly don't be sad, we just another one of regular people who live regular life--perfectly the way it is already. As somebody else words, things happen for the best, but if we never try so we'll never know! Go ahead, do whatever you want and just be good with any outcome. If your were lucky--congratulation, if not--you'll be fine. We will survive anyway ;P

*it's a hidden story (bitter sweet end).

Whoever desired to be alone is happy :)

While many people suffered from loneliness, I'm happy to be alone. You must be strong enough to live your life by yourself and choose to be alone with happiness. I can't deny that the loneliness was paid a visit me sometimes before and it will happen many more times in the future, but I've been vaccinated by choosing to be happy with nobody, so I should be fine. Good companions don't need to be one person who has sex opposite yours, they can be your good friends or your existing family (not expecting family you want to build), most of all they don't need to be with you all the time but still can support you. I might can't find that kind of people but I'm willing to be one of its kind for any people in my life that I care for. I'm happy because I choose to be happy, no one can make me! :) I didn't say I have no love, I love many people in my life without requiring them to be mine, love is good as it is and always will :))